The truth will set you free, but it will cost you something. As I am an advocate of the truth, I recognize that it comes with a price. We are afraid to give full disclosure and in some instances, the reality is everyone can’t handle the truth. Yes, we heard that from the movie, “A Few Good Men,” however it is a powerful and accurate statement. While conducting my workshop of Series 1 of “The Silence is Too Loud,” there is a lot of conversation about transparency which entails truth and it is a component many are challenged with. As we shed layers to arrive at the core of who we are it requires us to pay the price of truth.
Revealing the truth can be fearful because we don’t know what to expect from others as we begin to disclose our truth. There can be consequences that result in the loss of friends or people choosing to distance themselves from we because of the truth we have shared. I am a firm believer often situations that occur are purposeful and therefore it was meant to be. There are unhealthy relationships that may dissolve once the truth has been spoken, but those are the very relationships that needed to be put to rest. Not everyone is strong enough to handle our truth, thus we must distinction between who we share our truth with and those unable to receive it.
Truth can destroy a person’s perception of who they thought we were and be a disappointment because of the expectations they had. Despite that being the case, we must be strong enough to own whatever that truth is. The up side to that is we become healthier in our mental and emotional space as we release ourselves from the false perceptions and unconfirmed expectations people had created about us.
If we choose not to embrace truth head on, we find that we are carrying this extremely heavy burden. But when we disclose the truth with the right people, we find there are others who are willing to carry the load with us and there is a sense of freedom. You may ask yourselves who are the right people to share the truth with. My answer to this question is people who bring no judgment, love you unconditionally, have compassion and empathy for your situation. Does this mean that we should be dishonest with people who do not fall into this category? No, it means as previously stated everyone is not strong enough to handle your truth. Therefore, you will limit the amount of information you share with people who you know will want to judge your situation. Not only are they not strong enough to handle it, they are genuinely not ready. Now, I want you to be very clear on what I’m saying, depending on the situation I’m not asking that you surround yourselves with people who will condone your situation in the event it is something you have done wrong, but surround yourselves with people who will support you in your journey to get healthy. There’s a distinct difference between supporting you in getting healthy in your thinking and behavior versus allies who condone your behavior.
Your truth can be a testimony that will help someone else in their journey. As others hear your situation it may resemble their own giving them a sense of hope and a bond that will strengthen.
I leave you with this stanza from “The Truth About the Truth,” from my book, The Silence is Too Loud.
Truth is revealing, appealing
And can create healing
When it is allowed to penetrate the heart
This is the moment acceptance will start
The truth can be welcomed with a sense of joy
Realizing its presence is not going to destroy